Fears around looking at the state of your finances are more common than you might think. It’s those very fears that hold you back from enjoying the natural (including financial) flow of Life. The sooner you decide to turn around and face your financial fears straight on, the closer you come to realizing your greatest dreams.
It takes a great deal of courage to create a life different from your raising. It takes courage to change money habits. It means admitting that you’ve been doing the same-old same-old unconsciously. Your money habits (up ’til now) were serving you to get what you wanted in your life. You didn’t need to change them. When we start waking up to Life, we are invited to look at the results of our thoughts and beliefs.
Creating a life of financial abundance is very scientific and straight-forward. Money can sometimes seem to have so much mystery around it that collectively we find it easier to shut down and not deal with it. The way THROUGH a challenge is actually through it, not by avoiding it. Those money fears, like any fear, chase us and chase us, waiting for our attention. When we finally turn around to face the demon we imagine to be so gruesome and unmanageable, it is often times not as horrible as we think.
I found a great way to face my financial fears was by really looking at my money situation. I write down and account for every penny spent. I’ve done this in a physical notebook and I’ve tried it in a spreadsheet. I go in and out with this practice. Sometimes I’m so on the ball, I’m happenin’, joyously feeling stoked to not feel any money fears. Then I get all cocky and forget once. Then I forget again. And again. And yet again. Before I know it, a month (or more!) has gone by and I have spent all my money before payday. When I keep close tabs on my spending, I have more money. Probably because by looking at what I have, I’m expanding that which I give my attention to. Looking at my bank balance when it is down to $1.18 translates (to ME) that I’m focusing on what I do not have. Consequently, I shall receive more of what I put my focus on. Not very much cash.
As important as writing down your expenditures is the practice (and yes, it IS practice) of being non-judgemental towards ourselves when we are confronted with the reality of our finances. Where you find yourself right now is nothing more than the accumulation of thoughts of the past. There is no need to beat yourself up. If you don’t like what has happened up until now, change your mind. Determine what you prefer your financial life to look like and make choices that support that goal. There is no evil force out there preventing you from attaining all you choose to experience.
Oh, and keep reminding yourself. When you fall/fail/forget, get back at it. And be ever so gentle with yourself in the process. I mean it.